If overcoming masturbation is your goal, you’ve come to the right place. The first step is to honor God with this decision and align your motives with His.
You cannot expect God’s assistance if your focus is on
yourself and what freedom can do for you. Isaiah 48:11 says God
will not share his glory with another.
In the story of Gideon, God reduced the size of his army so that when they won the battle Israel could not claim glory for itself. (See Judges 7:2)
God does not want us to boast in ourselves or a program we follow. God works for his own glory. (NOTE: glory means honor, praise, exaltation, magnify, spotlight. Jesus was the “brightness of His glory and the express image of His person” (Hebrews 1:1) Jesus “glorified” the Father by bringing attention to God’s true character by becoming flesh and giving us a visual, tangible example.)
So ask yourself,
“Is my motive for overcoming to bring honor to myself or honor to God?”
When overcoming masturbation, this question must be settled. You can either work in
concert with God or at cross-purposes with Him.
Let this become your new motto:
This will ensure your success because God will come to your aid so that He will be glorified.
It reminds me of an 80’s movie about a dorky guy who wanted to become popular. He paid one of the beautiful cheerleaders to go out with him for a month because he knew that association with her would bring him into the “cool” spotlight.
She felt pressured into the deal because she needed the money. Sure enough, his plan worked. When the month was up he made a dramatic “break up” with her and began acting like a hot shot. With his new single status he began flirting with the other pretty girls.
The beautiful cheerleader felt used and betrayed because she had actually started liking him.
(Can’t Buy Me Love)
The point is - God will not enter into that kind of bargain.
He does not want to be used for your own promotion. If you want to be intimate
with Him and enjoy the benefits of association with Him it must be out of love
to Him, not love for yourself. He wants a genuine commitment and wants the credit
for the change He has made in your life.
The root of being addicted to masturbation is self-centeredness. God cannot free you from the addiction without pulling up the root. You must have your focus on the Lord, not yourself. If He were to free you, you'd just find another form of self worship.
Did you catch those two important points?
You’ve likely tried to quit being addicted to masturbation
before and it didn’t last long. Were you thinking about your guilt, your
discomfort, and your darkness instead of beholding Jesus and His glory and grace?
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You will never find overcoming
masturbation successful you are indecisive on this point because you will not
have the courage to win the battle that lies before you. Purity and godliness
must mean enough to you to warrant the effort.
To do this you must know what God’s word teaches.“Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? By taking heed thereto according to thy word.” (Ps 119:9, KJV)
God’s word is the antidote for impurity.
But you may already know the Bible doesn't approve of this and you still do it. Why is that? You must be motivated by a fear of the Lord.
A person who fears the Lord will
not look to push the limits of sin. They will see sin as a poison that must be
eradicated at any cost. The cry of your heart must be to please the Lord and
Have you firmly concluded that it is evil? I know for me, if I consider something to be
- “not best”
- “last resort"
- “okay under certain circumstances” or believe
- “The Lord understands,”
- “As long as I’m temperate...”
I will always go back to it. Until I firmly decide that a certain activity is sin, the temptation will always get me to give in. But something interesting and wonderful happens when I finally decide something is sin and I will not indulge.
I don’t even want it anymore.
When all hope is removed from getting what you want, your mind will stop longing for it and will occupy itself in other pursuits.
Think about that. Let’s say your sister just had a birthday party and you know there’s chocolate cake in the fridge. You may think about it all day and anticipate coming home from school to enjoy a slice. But when you get home you see it’s all gone. You may feel frustrated for a moment, but when you know it’s unavailable, it’s not an option anymore, your brain will have to make the adjustment and stop craving it. Then you’ll find another avenue to satisfy your taste buds.
This is a law of the mind. In overcoming masturbation, this principle is key.